When a Man Cries by Siphiwo MahalaThemba Limba is a family man who is caught between his flourishing career as a teacher and municipal councilor and his overriding sexual interests. Despite his attempts to maintain his status in the community, his actions eventually lead to his downfall. What follows is an account - sometimes tragic, occasionally humorous, and always compelling - of Thembas efforts to regain his dignity and pride in the eyes of his family and community. When a Man Cries is an uncompromising and engrossing novel about the challenges of manhood in contemporary South African society. It interrogates the dynamics of township life and the human and socio-economic realities of the most impoverished communities in post-apartheid South Africa.
MAN CRIES AS GIRL PROPOSES . Gary Golding / TARZAN of Los Angeles
When a man cries in public
A woman might not say anything in the moment, but crying like a woman would e. Some women, especially those who are insecure and want an emotionally weak man who needs them, will say that they LIKE a guy who cries. Of course she does; she wants an emotionally weak man who needs her for his emotional security and stability. From all of my years of research into sexual attraction between men and women, I have found that crying in front of a woman reduces the amount of attraction and respect for you. However, there are some exceptions to that rule.
By Kathy Gyngell. My hanky was soaked from the tears I could not help running down my face. Sniffing and nose blowing were audible across the church pews packed for the funeral of a brilliant, popular and kind year-old whose young life had been cut short by cancer. But his father, ashen-faced and white-knuckled from gripping the pulpit as he paid tribute to his son, shed not a tear. It was typical of a man who, despite his grief, saw it as his duty to hold himself and his distraught family together. His restraint did not surprise me - as a woman in her 60s, my generation was not brought up to see men crying.
A friend of mine told me about this one time she saw her husband cry at the funeral of his father. She understood his feeling of pain and loss, and she thought the tears were completely warranted. I, on the other hand, think a little bit differently about this and believe that tears of your man normally can make you two closer. Men feel a lot of pressure, and are always the strong one in all relationships. From a very early age, boys are taught to just suck it up and move on, and if they express their emotions, they may get teased and bullied.
Acceptable Times to Cry or Get “Watery-Eyed”
Closet sobbers have been taught that boys shouldn't cry. If you notice he's quieter than usual, ask him if something's wrong at work. Even if that's not the problem, he'll be more inclined to reveal what's upsetting him if you open the door. It won't happen overnight, but as trust increases, so should his expressions of emotion. Deep down, this guy has a need to impress, which is why he doesn't like to reveal any chinks in his armor. Your job is to make it clear that tenderness is one of the qualities you prize in a guy. This may come as a surprise, but a man who's not in touch with his feelings will always put yours first.
I was terrified to. After several years of actively suppressing my feelings, a particularly traumatic year washed over me and I began to crack open. Over the last few years, I have made friends with the full spectrum of my emotional self, and accepted it all once more. My sadness and I are now good friends. So are me and anger. And grief , and joy , and all of them. If we put a lid on our sadness or grief, then we also put a ceiling on our ability to feel joy.