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7 Things You Must Avoid When Fighting With Your Beloved
How to Stop Having the Same Fight With Your Boyfriend All the Time
Linda Carroll, M. She is the author of the highly acclaimed book 'Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love,' which has been translated into four languages. Do you notice that you and your partner always end up having "the same old argument"? But why? Well, the reason it feels like it's a loop, is because it IS a loop.
Fighting with your partner is the worst. It's sometimes necessary and even healthy to argue. But if you find that you keep rehashing the same issues over and over again, it can take a toll on your relationship. So what can you do to avoid having the same fights all the time? Experts say there are a few key things you can do.
It's not necessarily a bad thing to fight. There are plenty of strong yet volatile couples. But certain lines should not be crossed, and it's important to repair. To do that, you need to validate the other person's feelings and appreciate that he or she experiences things differently than you do. What most people don't realize is that you're not actually fighting about money or commitment or who does the housework. What you're really fighting about is feeling a lack of love, respect, power … or some combination of the three. The content of your fight doesn't matter nearly as much as the form.
It seemed that whatever they were arguing about never got resolved, and it only became a broken record, repeating itself again and again in a vicious cycle. Michael Fulwiler, of The Gottman Institute, notes that this is a frequent experience for many couples.
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Every product is independently selected by our editors. If you buy something through our links, we may earn an affiliate commission. He can only come back with attacks on you. Before you know it, disrespect is rampant, nobody hears the other, and the true grievances you have go unheard and unresolved. No one is right percent of the time. Instead of figuring out who is right, you should be figuring out how to make things work.