Tough Guys and Drama Queens: How Not to Get Blindsided by Your Childs Teen Years by Mark GregstonI was really looking forward to reading Tough Guys and Drama Queens: How Not to Get Blindsided by Your Childs Teen Years because I have a tween drama queen in the making and I was pleasantly surprised that the core of Mark Gregstons philosophy is not just how to handle the turbulent teen years but how parents can better prepare their teens for adulthood. Having worked with teens myself, I am impressed that Mark Gregston, founder of a Christian residential counseling center called Heartlight, has had thirty-eight years of experience with more than 2,500 teens.
The author explains the steps of the parental roles in memorable terms. In the first five years parents try to please their children. In the elementary years, there is a shift to protecting the children. Middle school aged children need parents to provide. The remaining teen years should be about preparing them for adulthood. Unfortunately, many parents get stuck in over-pleasing, over-protecting, and over-providing modes. The result is their teenagers are not prepared to be self-reliant adults and they take on the very traits the parents were hoping to avoid, but were inevitable with their parental approach.
At first, it grated with me that Mark Gregston feels that the parenting approach that worked well with me as a child would not work today with the overexposure to information, the overloading children due to our heightened technology, but then I have to admit that todays culture is significantly different than when I was a teen. There were no such things as cell phones, home computers, and cable TV in my home as I was growing up, much less the Internet, email, blogs, Facebook, Twitter, texting, digital pictures, and video games. Between the pressures of school, activities, homework, chores, peer pressures, social media, and parental expectations to excel, a child could be starving for a loving, peaceful, and restful relationship with his parents, as the author suggests. I have felt strictly curtailing online and gaming activities would alleviate these pressures, but I agreed with the advice in the book that at some point teens need to be encouraged to make their own decisions, so they can learn from their mistakes--and, yes, they will make mistakes--at home with forgiving parents.
I highly recommend this book for parents whether or not you are struggling with your tweens or teens. The book has suggestions on what parenting practices to avoid and what ones work. There are examples of previously ideal teens suddenly turning onto the wrong path and why other teens seem rebellious most of the time. Most importantly, I feel the wisdom contained helps the parent realize in a big picture way that the goal is not to have the perfect teen, but to allow the teen to be imperfect. Not to buffer the teen from the world, but allow him to test the waters of self-reliance, self-control, and self-discipline by increasingly allowing him to make his own choices and realizing, as hard as it is to allow him to fail or get into trouble, that he will learn from his mistakes more than any lecture.
Tough Guys and Drama Queens: How Not to Get Blindsided by Your Childs Teen Years will be staying on my shelf as a reference book to be reread in the future if only to remind me of the ultimate goal is to launch the teenager into adulthood and to encourage me stay on track with that big picture.
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Juche! the Speeches and Writings of Kim Il Sung
Kim Il-sung — developed the ideology, originally viewed as a variant of Marxism—Leninism until it became distinctly Korean in character  while incorporating the historical materialist ideas of Marxism—Leninism and strongly emphasizing the individual , the nation state and its sovereignty. Such principles include moving the nation towards claimed jaju "independence" ,  through the construction of jarip "national economy" and an emphasis upon jawi "self-defence" in order to establish socialism. The practice of Juche is firmly rooted in the ideals of sustainability through agricultural independence and a lack of dependency. The Juche ideology has been criticized by many scholars and observers as a mechanism for sustaining the totalitarian rule of the North Korean regime  [ full citation needed ] and justifying the country's heavy-handed isolationism and oppression of the North Korean people. The word was coined in to translate the concept of Subjekt in German philosophy subject , meaning "the entity perceiving or acting upon an object or environment" into Japanese. The word migrated to the Korean language at around the turn of the century and retained this meaning. In today's political discourse on North Korea , Juche has a connotation of "self-reliance", "autonomy" and "independence".
Seller Rating:. About this Item: Grossman. - According to North Korean sources, the works of Kim Il-sung amount to approximately 10, speeches, reports, books, treatises and other types of works. Kim Il-sung's works are published and republished in countless collections.
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